Why Do Men Chase Women and Then Change When Women Show Interest? Here is the Reason Why
How many times have you seen a man chase you till you have relented and given in to him? But how often have you seen the same guy dig his heels and run away or become completely disinterested when you have turned around and shown him interest. If this is what has happened and you want to know why then read on and find out the reason behind such behavior.
It is an evaluation process
Men are very strange creatures. They chase you until they have got you and then give you the cold shoulder because they have an evaluation process in place. 9 out of 10 times women fail this test and the men move on to the next girl.
Things don't seem as exciting anymore
As a relationship progresses you get to know a lot about each other. But what was extremely exciting in the beginning because of its newness gradually begins to lose its charm and hence you don't come across as exciting anymore. Hence he loses interest once you display your interest in him.
They don't know what to do with their 'hunter' instinct
Men would like to believe that they are hunters and like all having games the thrill is in the chase. While this cave man attitude should be left in the caves, unfortunately it isn't and they dump you or lose interest in you when the chase ends.
They get scared of intimacy
Men also lose interest in you once you show interest because they fear intimacy and commitment. No matter how wonderful a relationship and how great you both are together, most men fear becoming a 'couple'. The minute you show interest in him the big C looms large and he begins to fear the worst.
The relationship becomes stale
Another reason why men lose interest in you when you show interest in them is because they feel that the relationship has now become stale. Your guy sees your involvement as a coup of sorts, and doesn't know where to go or what to do from there on. Once the pattern of the relationship is set, he begins to find it boring and your involvement annoying.
The variety stops
Men don't want to be tied down and your interest in him means that he will not be allowed to choose. That reduces the option of variety and that is not acceptable.
The switch from great to good to ordinary
When he wants you more than you want him the sex is great. As you get involved and the relationship evolves the sex, for him, goes from great to good. And finally when he sees you are interested in him the sex goes form great to good to ordinary. That is reason for him to want change.
It is an evaluation process
Men are very strange creatures. They chase you until they have got you and then give you the cold shoulder because they have an evaluation process in place. 9 out of 10 times women fail this test and the men move on to the next girl.
Things don't seem as exciting anymore
As a relationship progresses you get to know a lot about each other. But what was extremely exciting in the beginning because of its newness gradually begins to lose its charm and hence you don't come across as exciting anymore. Hence he loses interest once you display your interest in him.
They don't know what to do with their 'hunter' instinct
Men would like to believe that they are hunters and like all having games the thrill is in the chase. While this cave man attitude should be left in the caves, unfortunately it isn't and they dump you or lose interest in you when the chase ends.
They get scared of intimacy
Men also lose interest in you once you show interest because they fear intimacy and commitment. No matter how wonderful a relationship and how great you both are together, most men fear becoming a 'couple'. The minute you show interest in him the big C looms large and he begins to fear the worst.
The relationship becomes stale
Another reason why men lose interest in you when you show interest in them is because they feel that the relationship has now become stale. Your guy sees your involvement as a coup of sorts, and doesn't know where to go or what to do from there on. Once the pattern of the relationship is set, he begins to find it boring and your involvement annoying.
The variety stops
Men don't want to be tied down and your interest in him means that he will not be allowed to choose. That reduces the option of variety and that is not acceptable.
The switch from great to good to ordinary
When he wants you more than you want him the sex is great. As you get involved and the relationship evolves the sex, for him, goes from great to good. And finally when he sees you are interested in him the sex goes form great to good to ordinary. That is reason for him to want change.
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